Posted by Confused Woman on April 23, 1999 at 12:40:34:
In Reply to: Break free of your mother first posted by Jake on April 23, 1999 at 12:05:59:
I'm afraid I've been misunderstood on one point. You stated I have to learn to be myself, not feel fulfilled or validated through my mother or my ex. I realize this point. I preach this point to people, in fact. I've been on my own long enough that I know I can survive just fine without a man and I don't think I'll ever "NEED" a man. I'll be with one eventually because I want to, not need to. I'm perfectly content to have my quiet time alone doing my own thing. I don't have that need, like some women do, to see myself through the reflection in whatever man I'm with and think that's all I am. I'm a strong person, I've been alone a long time, I know what I want out of life (more children, home, freedom from my mother's control as I try to become a grown up at age 32, a few career type goals thrown in there too but that's another point altogether) and I'm now taking steps to get these things (not really "things" but you now what I mean). And as part of figuring out what I want in life and going after it, I must ask myself if I gave this guy/relationship/marriage a real chance or acted in haste.